What I Learned In Therapy
Finally starting this series after MUCH debate.
When I started therapy, I didn’t ever think I’d be sharing my journey online. I don’t think anyone wakes up one day and thinks to themselves “wouldn’t it be fun if I shared the details of my therapy to potentially millions of people online?” Except me of course. This morning.
I’ve actually been thinking about starting this series around therapy for a while. It’s not something I shy away from talking about but I just haven’t found the right format for it. Although I’ll most likely create videos around this topic at some point, I wanted to start this series easily by doing what I do best—writing about my feelings!
So today, I woke up and did something I don’t do often. I went back to read old journal entries. (Not something I recommend for a Monday morning btw). And I found this quote from December 2021.
“Are your decisions based on self-assurance or obligations?”
Boy, did that get me thinking. What does it even mean to make “self-assured decisions”. Don’t obligations HAVE to take precedence at times?
So that’s what I’m starting the series with. My musings about this question and how I’ve applied the learnings to my life. If you want to read the entire article, it’s now live on my blog.
Here are the main summary points:
It’s not a bad thing to make decisions based on the responsibility you feel for those that you care about
Commitment bias is our tendency to remain committed to our past behaviors, particularly those exhibited publicly, even if they lead to undesirable outcomes
Committing to decisions a past version of you has made can be the ultimate barrier to growth
I prioritize others over myself and that has caused intense cognitive dissonance in my life (+ how I’m dealing with it)
Excited to be continuing this series over on the blog and share more on what I’ve been learning in therapy. It’s officially been 3 years since I started therapy. How crazy is that! I hope these articles help to break the stigma around therapy and show you that it’s really not that scary. Even if I can convince 1 person to explore themselves on a deeper level (even if it’s not through therapy), I’d feel like this series is doing its job.